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Thanks for providing this service of connecting parents with
Christian therapeutic programs for teenagers like Heartlight. We
appreciate all you are doing to help parents and teenagers. --
Mark Gregston, Founder,
Heartlight Christian Boarding School
I am a therapist in NJ working at a residential treatment center. I
came across your site. It is a wonderful website! I
really enjoyed your article on
self harm. Thank
you for the excellent resources.
I am a School Counselor in Colorado, and have found your site to be
a wealth of resources and information. THANK YOU for providing
so many resources!
In the process of doing research for Grad School, I encountered this
website. I currently work with at-risk adolescents and I was
totally amazed with the information provided. I was also very
impressed with all of the North Dakota info too.
Thank You for such a fantastic and
informative website! I am the Adolescent Group Coordinator for a
Partial Hospitalization Program in South Central PA. Your site has
been an invaluable resource for information my patients can
understand. Through you, they have gained knowledge and the
power of understanding their own
mental health issues, thus learning
to successfully live "normally". Prior to discovering your
site I was trying to adapt the information from the DSM-IV, but that
is such a daunting task on so many levels - you have done that in a
way that is user friendly without missing a thing. Thank You
again for creating this site. It is powerful in my practice and a
I just wanted to commend you on your
amazing clear and helpful site - I am desperately looking for good,
immediate information to help us help my son's 15-year-old
girlfriend deal with an alcohol problem - a wonderful wonderful girl
who I have discovered (no surprise) has many in her family who drink
too much. Needless to say her mum is in denial ... I just wanted to
share my joy and relief at finding your site and to tell you how
much it means to me and our family. Thank you!
have been looking and looking for information on how to help my 16
year old son with his poor school grade problems. He is a very
smart young man but really has lost vision for his future.
Through your website I was able to find much needed information.
I really do appreciate this!!! And I just wanted to let you
I am a therapist in NJ working at a residential treatment center. I came across your site. It is a wonderful website! I really enjoyed your article on self harm. Thank you for the excellent resources.
I am a School Counselor in Colorado, and have found your site to be a wealth of resources and information. THANK YOU for providing so many resources!
In the process of doing research for Grad School, I encountered this website. I currently work with at-risk adolescents and I was totally amazed with the information provided. I was also very impressed with all of the North Dakota info too.
Thank You for such a fantastic and informative website! I am the Adolescent Group Coordinator for a Partial Hospitalization Program in South Central PA. Your site has been an invaluable resource for information my patients can understand. Through you, they have gained knowledge and the power of understanding their own mental health issues, thus learning to successfully live "normally". Prior to discovering your site I was trying to adapt the information from the DSM-IV, but that is such a daunting task on so many levels - you have done that in a way that is user friendly without missing a thing. Thank You again for creating this site. It is powerful in my practice and a true blessing.
I just wanted to commend you on your amazing clear and helpful site - I am desperately looking for good, immediate information to help us help my son's 15-year-old girlfriend deal with an alcohol problem - a wonderful wonderful girl who I have discovered (no surprise) has many in her family who drink too much. Needless to say her mum is in denial ... I just wanted to share my joy and relief at finding your site and to tell you how much it means to me and our family. Thank you!
I have been looking and looking for information on how to help my 16 year old son with his poor school grade problems. He is a very smart young man but really has lost vision for his future. Through your website I was able to find much needed information. I really do appreciate this!!! And I just wanted to let you know. -- Parent
I would like to thank you and Focus
Adolescent Services once again for your
Just wanted to let you know that I will be using your Personality Disorder description. It nails down exactly what I wish to bring to a training of counselors within our community correction centers in the state of Pennsylvania. We are incorporating a cognitive behavioral program at our community corrections centers building off of a program called "Thinking for a Change." In my training design I believe it will be imperative for staff to have some understanding of personality disorders. What I find curious about your information is that it is about personality disorders within the general population of our society; yet it provides a clear indication of some of the personality types we often encounter inside the prisons and within our centers. Again, I thank you for allowing reproduction of your information and I will most definitely cite you as the source. -- Special Projects Coordinator, Bureau of Community Corrections, Pennsylvania Department of Corrections
I am a seventh grade school counselor and I thoroughly enjoy your site -- it is packed with USEFUL information, resources, etc. I often recommend your site to many of our parents -- and teachers. . . your website is one of the most useful, informative, detailed, and helpful sites that I have visited . . . Thank you for all your hard work maintaining the website. -- Guidance Counselor, J.E.J. Moore Middle School, Virginia
I just want to say thank you for your website. I had the opportunity to Google search about adolescent cutting, and found a world of information on your site. I'm extremely grateful for the information, and intend to spend more time using your resources. Thank you again. -- School Counselor, Akron, Ohio
I've been doing research on teenage violence and bullying when I found this site. Recently, I became aware of the bullying situation in high school, but very, very sadly, it was my own son doing the bullying. This site provided me with some great information. My son is now having to do a research paper on bullying for "Mom" and this has provided valuable information. Again, thank you !!!!!!!!!!! -- Parent
I wanted to write to thank you for your website and all the wonderful information referenced on it. Being the step-parent of an acting-out adolescent has been very difficult, and we have not been successful at gaining help from the school system or therapy, because nobody we talk to seems aware of how to deal with adolescent bad behavior and pathology. Thank you for your help. It's a great resource I will happily share with others in need. -- Parent
Your site is a wonderful resource for children, families, professionals and advocates! I am truly amazed at your listing of resources. -- Project Coordinator, Washington County Community Partnership, Maryland
The article on Moms and Overweight Teens was so helpful. It was exactly what I needed to hear. My 14 year old daughter is 5 foot and weighs over 150 lbs. On top of that, she dances competitively. I ignored her weight until she turned 14 because I thought she would grow out of it. But it had become a huge issue for us and I was really feeling panicky. Thanks for helping me putting things in perspective and making me realize that the relationship with my daughter is more important than her weight. -- Parent
wanted to thank you for your great website.
Your website is fantastic! We are so happy that someone has finally taken on such a task and done so well at it! We hope your efforts reach many, many people. We plan to tell all of our group about your services. -- New Hope of Greater Cincinnati [parent support network]
I would like to congratulate you on an excellent website! I am so thrilled to see that someone is addressing adolescent behavioral problems without pushing medication to treat whatever the underlying problem(s) may be.
would just like to thank you for being so kind to respond to my request for
information about your organization. We greatly appreciate you helping us
to improve our Compassionate Ministries Organization. Thank you again and
God bless. --
Out of all the people I called and spoke to last evening about my daughter with self-mutilation/cutting, you were the most helpful. I felt lucky to have you last night, it helped set me on the right course, and not make a poor decision. She was okay last night, not too happy this morning when we went to her school to speak with her guidance counselor, social worker and school psychologist. They gave me info also, but stuff you had already said and books I already ordered last night, but that's okay. It's funny I have worked in Special Education for 20+ years. I have seen much, learned much and have been lucky to work with a diverse group of other professionals, and yet I clearly missed my own daughter's cry for help .... Thank you again from the bottom of my heart. .... As soon as I make it through the next few days I promise to send in a donation, it's the least I can do.
I am a psychologist in Alberta, Canada. I found your website and it is amazing. Thank you for taking the time to put all of that information down on "cyber-paper." I am teaching a course next week on Counseling Children and Adolescents and this website will be recommended to my students.
Greetings! I just want to thank you for providing resources that my students at Rutgers University studying about atypical development in childhood and adolescents find to be extremely valuable. -- Maurice Elias, Ph.D., Vice-Chair of the Leadership Team of the Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning and co-author of A New Parenting Challenge for Challenging New Times: Raising Teenagers to Become Compassionate, Committed, Courageous Adults
Fantastic Site! As a mom and as the President of the Family Law Association at the University of Baltimore School of Law, I am very impressed! -- Dawn Anderson
Your page "How is Your Child" really hit the nail on the head for me. I actually just today put it all together that my child is out of control and crying out for help. She has been charged with possession of a controlled substance, so is now involved with the juvenile justice program. Your site has helped answer a lot of questions for me.
I am writing to tell you that I find your site very interesting and useful, and will be providing the URL as a resource to my students. They may be accessing it for study and research purposes. -- Teacher, Avon Maitland Distance Education Centre
I just wanted to say thanks for a fantastic website! It is a wealth of information for parents of troubled teens (including me).
Thanks for the excellent website. -- James T. Neill, University of New Hampshire, Outdoor Education Research & Evaluation Center
Thank you for your assistance. I feel that I am getting to the point where I need help in directing my child in making healthy decisions. An angry adolescent is very trying. Thanks again for the information!
We could not have found a residential program for our son without your help. There is so much information on the web that we were confused about where to go and who to trust. We're so glad our therapist recommended Focus to help us find a place where our son could get the help he needs. Thank you and God bless.
I am an 8th Grade student doing a research project on Teen Alcohol. I am writing you to say that your website really provided me with a lot of information that will further my learning on teenage drinking.
Thank you for caring. -- Sharon Brodt, Parents Against Child Pornography
Thank you for having this information. I am writing a paper on teen depression. It has been hard to find information on the treatment side of teen depression.
I am a licensed clinical social worker in Atlanta, Georgia. I find your site very helpful, in part because there are few coordinated sites in this area for adolescents/young adults.
Thank you so much for putting our information on your web-site. It is always exciting to get our number out through new venues as this increases our possibility of getting info out to people who need it. Your web-site provides a wonderful service for many people. THANK YOU! -- Oregon Partnership
Your website deserves an award. I have found more information here than any other website. My son has multiple problems all of which are addressed in this site. Thank you so much for your help and keep up the good work for parents like us who desperately need a lifeline.
Thank you so much for creating this wonderful site. I have found so much information that I desperately needed. I have a 15 year old beautiful daughter who is in a crisis right now in her life. I have found some wonderful resources to help her. I also work with special education students and can now direct the parents to your site for help for them too.
I just wanted to thank you so much for all of the information you gave. I found the information to be very helpful and it was perfect information for my project. I truly appreciate all of your help. -- University of Maryland student
Thank you for information I received tonight. I logged on due to learning of drug use with our sons. I am logging off with needed knowledge.
You folks have put together a truly great site. The structure and comprehensiveness is excellent. The articles, links, and other resources are very helpful. Thanks for including one of my sites in the "Suicide" subset. Great job! -- Tony Salvatore, The Suicide Paradigm
LOVE your website . . . has helped tremendously! -- School Psychologist, Fulton County Schools, Georgia
Just a note of thanks for your comprehensive and easy-to-search site re: self injury. I am trying to educate myself as I have a 15-year-old niece who cuts herself. She is in crisis treatment for the 3rd time and long-term treatment of some kind is being pursued. I hope and pray we can find her the help she needs to cope with her feelings. I am trying to help with educating myself and my family about SI and by finding information re: how families can help while also finding support for themselves in how to deal with this crisis. Thank you again for the information.
I would like to thank you personally for adding "BECAUSE I LOVE YOU" to your directory. Hoping for a long relationship and to be able to help parents around the country. Many thanks again. -- Jerry B. Goldman, President, B.I.L.Y. Parent Support Groups
I came upon your site and I am grateful to have found information which helped me understand that there are many in the world facing situations which could be like ours.
I can't tell you how much we appreciate your promotion of Highfields on your Michigan web site. We have received many hits through your web page and have been able to help a few more people because of FocusAS. Your site is very beneficial to those in need. Thank you again for all the help you have been and continue to be. -- Highfields of Michigan
I am a single parent and don't quite know what else to do - have tried counseling, "tough love" tactics, etc. but I don't think I'm getting through. Thank you for your help.
Focus Adolescent Services is a valuable site for North Carolina parents. -- Parents Advocating Vaccine Education
First and foremost let me thank you for your site. I've been trying to gather information for a County Summit I'm holding to encourage underage drinking prevention. The information on this website was phenomenal! -- Student at Woodstown High School, New Jersey
Thank you for your quick response and assistance. I have gotten in touch with 2 organizations that you recommended. Thank you again.
I am very impressed by the professional quality of the site and its richness in resources.
You have a great website. I wish I had seen this ten years ago. I have two young adult children recovering from heroin addiction. -- President, Heroin Action Coalition of Carroll County, Maryland
This is a great site - thanks for all the hard work it must have taken to put it together.
I wanted to thank you for taking the time out to read my e-mail and send a response to me in such a short amount of time. I really appreciate your help. -- David J. Ahn, Every Fifteen Minutes . . .
I want to thank you for such a comprehensive presentation of adolescent and family issues. As a graduate student in the field of Marital Family Therapy-Clinical Art Therapy at LMU, the resources offered by this website are valuable.
Focus is a great family-related resource! -- Joshua Finer, Software4Parents
I am a student from the UK studying for a degree in cognitive science. I am currently researching personality disorders and found your web site to be of great use.
I am currently counseling a young lady (22) who is a cutter. I am not very familiar with this but the website has opened my eyes to many things. Thank you for being here!
I am a licensed professional counselor in Northern Virginia and just found your web page full of valuable information.
I spent at least an hour talking with a Focus counselor on the phone. Never has anyone been more helpful. I found him to be kind, understanding, sympathetic, and highly knowledgeable. Thank you.
Thanks for the help and your continuing good work. -- Don Porth, President, SOS FIRES: Youth Intervention Programs
Thank you for the information I acquired on your web-site. I was diagnosed Bipolar three years ago, but never could find information that I could read and understand as well as yours. I have sent my family and friends to your web-site, so they might learn my illness better and help me keep tabs on my moods. Thank you so much for your information.
I am writing to you after reviewing your website. I have learned a lot of interesting things in my search for help for my son and us as a family at Focus.
I just wanted to take a moment to thank you for the important work that you are doing. -- Denise Marhoefer, The Legal Defense Foundation, Losantville, Indiana
I am using your web site to do a report in my Psychology class. Everything that I need is here!
Thank you for your guidance. Your site has a lot of very good information with it.
Your website is wonderful! I visited your web page and I was very impressed! -- Christine and the staff of the Monte Nido Treatment Center
I have just discovered your site and am very impressed. -- John Yonce, General Manager, Porter Sargent Publishers Inc.
I would like to thank you for the wonderful and very informative web page on ecstasy. Our 14-year-old son was asking me questions about the drug and I had NO idea what it was. We learned a lot and would like to thank you immensely for sharing this knowledge.
Thanks so much again, it's good to know there are people like you out there to help when needed.
I got your www address from the side of a racing Volvo pictured in a Malaysian website dedicated to old Volvos. I work with Indigenous youth in Northern Australia and race a couple of Volvo 122s myself. We are struggling here to get a basic secondary education to some 5000 adolescents who currently have none. Love your site and found it encouraging.
by Mary Pipher
Families today are experiencing a new set of realities. Working parents are harried, tired, and overextended. They are unable to protect their children from the enemy within, the inappropriate television they watch for hours, the computer games that keep them from playing outside, the virtual reality they tune in to when they should be learning about the real world. And so, Pipher says, we have houses without walls. Compounding this is the fact that our psychological theories don't work anymore, because they were developed decades ago, when families were tightly knit, relatively monolithic institutions. Pipher offers ideas for simple actions we can all take to help rebuild our families and strengthen our communities. Visit Parenting Teens.
by Gary Chapman
This book contains very practical guidance on how to express the teen's primary love language, how to teach them appropriate responsibility, and how to properly handle both parental and teen anger. It is a tangible resource for stemming the tide of violence, immorality, and despair engulfing many teens today. Visit Adolescence.
by John Eldredge
This is a book about how a boy -- and a man -- becomes a man. We live in a time where most men and boys are essentially fatherless. Whatever their circumstances, they have no man actually taking them through the many adventures, trials, battles and experiences they need to shape a masculine heart within them. They find themselves on their own to figure life out, and that is a lonely place to be. Their fears, anger, boredom and their many addictions all come out of this fatherless place within them, a fundamental uncertainty in the core of their being. Eldredge reveals how God takes a man on the masculine journey and how parents can lead their sons to manhood. Visit Adolescence and Emotional Health.
by Stasi Eldredge and John Eldredge
Every little girl has dreams of being swept up into a great adventure, of being the beautiful princess. Sadly, when women grow up, they are often swept up into a life filled merely with duty and demands. Many Christian women are tired, struggling under the weight of the pressure to be a "good servant," a nurturing caregiver, or a capable home manager. This book shows readers the glorious design of women before the fall, describes how the feminine heart can be restored, and casts a vision for the power, freedom, and beauty of a woman released to be all she was meant to be. By revealing the core desires every woman shares - to be romanced, to play an irreplaceable role in a grand adventure, and to unveil beauty, John and Stasi Eldredge invite women to recover their feminine hearts, created in the image of an intimate and passionate God. They also encourage men to discover the secret of a woman's soul and to delight in the beauty and strength women were created to offer. And more, they help parents to lead their daughters to become the strong and beautiful women they were created to be.
by John Townsend
This book offers help in raising your teens to take responsibility
for their actions, attitudes, and
shows parents how to bring control to an out-of-control family life,
how to set limits and still be loving parents, how to define
legitimate boundaries for the family, and how to instill in teens a
godly character. Visit
by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell
Parenting no longer ends at 18, yet very few resources are available to help parents better communicate with their child who is no longer a child. Here is a tool that will help you deal with such issues as: Helping Your Child Find Success, When Adult Children Return with their Children, Religious Choices and many more.
by Stephen R. Covey
With the same profound insight, simplicity, and practical wisdom that have already reached tens of millions of readers, Covey demonstrates how the principles he introduced in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People can be used to build the kind of strong, loving family that lasts for generations. Read an overview of the habits! Visit Three Resolutions.
by John Townsend
When you experience emotional injury, fear, shame, or pride your first impulse is to hide the hurting parts of yourself. Often these self-protective hiding patterns are learned during childhood. The problem is that when you hide, you isolate yourself from the very things you need in order to heal and mature. What served as protection for a child becomes a prison to an adult. Dr. Townsend helps you thoroughly explore the hiding patterns you've developed and guides you toward the healing grace and truth that God has built into safe, connected relationships with Himself and others. This book will take you on a journey of discovery toward healing, connecting relationships, and a new freedom and joy in living. Visit Teen Depression.
by Susan Rose Blauner
Blauner, a survivor of multiple suicide attempts, offers guidance and hope for those contemplating ending their lives — and for their loved ones. She eloquently describes the feelings and fantasies surrounding suicide, and in a direct, nonjudgmental and loving voice, offers affirmations and suggestions to those experiencing life-ending thoughts, and to their friends and family. Here is an essential resource destined to be the classic guide on the subject of suicide. A portion of the book's proceeds go to the National Hopeline Network/National Suicide Hotline (1-800-784-2433). Visit Teen Suicide.
by Tracy Alderman
Written for the victims of this addictive coping behavior — and for their families and mental health professionals — The Scarred Soul explores the reasons behind self-injury and shows how to overcome the psychological traps that lead to self-destructive acts. Visit Self-Injury.
by Ross Campbell
Dr. Campbell offers a guidebook of positive, proven strategies for real-world problems. Parents will learn how to spot depression and anticipate rebellion, how to discuss sexuality and keep anger in check, and most importantly, how to maintain communication and communicate love. Visit Parenting Teens.
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