10 IRRITATING HABITS
From Listen Up! by Larry Barker.
Active Listening: A Communication Tool ~ This document defines active listening skills and demonstrates how to use these skills to strengthen communications between you and your adolescent.
Anger in Our Teens and in Ourselves ~ The forms and underlying reasons of angry behavior, identifying and managing anger, and what parents can do.
Effective Family Communication ~ Even though it isn't guaranteed, your chances of solving problems and increasing your family's well-being are much higher when there is effective family communication.
Emotional Health ~ People with good emotional health
are in control of their thoughts, feelings
Family Communication and Family Meetings ~ One of the best methods for promoting positive family communication is to hold family meetings.
How to Listen to Your Teens ~ When you are using active listening effectively, you’ll learn more about your children and help them learn to solve their own problems.
Listening and Empathy Responding ~ We all know what it means to listen, to really listen. It is more than hearing the words, it is truly understanding and accepting the other person's message and also his/her situation and feelings.
Listening is important because... ~ Information from the International Listening Association.
Listening Well ~ True listening is listening for understanding.
Messages We Give Our Children ~ We send some of our "loudest" messages with no words at all.
Moms! Help Your Overweight Daughter ~ Dr. Susan Bartell offers TEN GREAT TIPS that will guide you in helping your daughter become healthier while you develop a closer relationship with her.
Parenting Teens ~ Resources, information, and articles on parenting, emotionally healthy families, and building positive family relationships.
Put Yourself in Someone Else's Shoes ~ Listening only to obtain information and form opinions means missing much of what the speaker is saying -- the emotions and intensity that make up real communication.
Red Flags ~ When teens need help, they have ways of letting us know. Unfortunately, they often don't ask for help with words, but with dangerous or self-destructive behavior.
Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood ~ Principles of empathic communication.
Three Resolutions ~ Stephen Covey tells us we need reinforcing relationships, people, and programs to help us be accountable and responsible.
Do Listening Skills Affect Learning?
Listening is not a school subject like reading and writing. Many of us seem to feel it comes naturally and that as long as we can listen to directions on how to find the restroom, nothing more needs to be said. The latest studies reveal that listening is a very large part of school learning and is one of our primary means of interacting with other people on a personal basis. It is estimated that between 50 and 75 percent of students' classroom time is spent listening to the teacher, to other students, or to audio media.
Can Parents Guide Their Children To Better Listening?
According to research on listening skills, being a good listener means focusing attention on the message and reviewing the important information. Parents can model good listening behavior for their children and advise them on ways to listen as an active learner, pick out highlights of a conversation, and ask relevant questions. Sometimes it helps to "show" children that an active listener is one who looks the speaker in the eye and is willing to turn the television off to make sure that the listener is not distracted by outside interference.
Guidelines For Modeling Good Listening Skills
Suggestions For Improving Communication With Children
Why Are Parents Important In Building Children's Communication Skills?
Parents play an essential role in building children's communication skills because children spend more time with their parents than with any other adult. Children also have a deeper involvement with their parents than with any other adult, and the family as a unit has lifelong contact with its members. Parents control many of the contacts a child has with society as well as society's contacts with the child.
Adults, parents, and teachers set a powerful example of good or poor communication. Communication skills are influenced by the examples children see and hear. Parents and teachers who listen to their children with interest, attention, and patience set a good example.
The greatest audience children can have is an adult who is important to them and interested in them.