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The Range of Teenage Sexual Behavior

More Information on Teen Sexual Behavior

Teen Sexual Behavior:  Issues and Concerns

Teen Girls in a Culture of Seduction  -  Teen Dating Violence

 

 

It's important for parents to understand what is "normal" sexual behavior in children and teenagers, and which behaviors might signal that a child is a victim of sexual abuse, or acting in a sexually aggressive manner towards others.

 

 

 

NORMAL RANGE

  • Sexually explicit conversations with peers

  • Obscenities and jokes within cultural norm

  • Sexual innuendo, flirting and courtship

  • Interest in erotica

  • Solitary masturbation

  • Hugging, kissing, holding hands

  • Foreplay, (petting, making out, fondling) and mutual masturbation: Moral, social or familial rules may restrict, but these behaviors are not abnormal, developmentally harmful, or illegal when private, consensual, equal, and non-coercive.

  • Monogamist intercourse: Stable monogamy is defined as a single sexual partner throughout adolescence. Serial monogamy indicates long-term (several months or years) involvement with a single partner which ends and is then followed by another

 

YELLOW FLAGS

 

Although many of these are not necessarily outside the range of behavior exhibited in teen peer groups, some evaluation and response is desirable in order to support healthy and responsible attitudes and behavior.

  • Sexual preoccupation/anxiety (interfering in daily functioning)

  • Pornographic interest

  • Polygamist sexual intercourse/promiscuity -- indiscriminate sexual contact with more than one partner during the same period of time.

  • Sexually aggressive themes/obscenities

  • Sexual graffiti (especially chronic and impacting individuals)

  • Embarrassment of others with sexual themes

  • Violation of others' body space

  • Pulling skirts up/pants down

  • Single occurrence of peeping, exposing with known peers

  • Mooning and obscene gestures

 

RED FLAGS

  • Compulsive masturbation (especially chronic or public)

  • Degradation/humiliation of self or others with sexual themes

  • Attempting to expose others' genitals

  • Chronic preoccupation with sexually aggressive pornography

  • Sexually explicit conversation with significantly young children

 

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Illegal behaviors defined by law

  • Obscene phone calls, voyeurism, frottage, exhibitionism, sexual harassment

  • Touching genitals without permission (e.g., grabbing, goosing)

  • Sexually explicit threats (verbal or written)

  • Sexual contact with significant age difference (child sexual abuse)

  • Forced sexual contact (sexual assault)

  • Forced penetration (rape)

  • Genital injury to others

  • Sexual contact with animals (bestiality)

NOTE:  Bestial porn is illegal under current federal obscenity codes.  Bestiality is specifically illegal in 30 states.  Animal abuse/cruelty laws have been and can be used in all states.  In other words, there are NO states where bestiality is legal.

 

 

Information provided by Missouri Division of Family Services.

 

 

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Please visit the Stop It Now website or call this confidential toll-free helpline if you think your child has a sexual behavior problem, has been sexually abused,  or is abusing another child.

 

 

More Information

 

Adolescent Sexual Behavior and the Law (pdf) ~ Statutory rape laws have been enacted to protect minors from sexual abuse from either adults or peers. The intent of the laws when they were passed was to protect minors from coercive and involuntary sexual activity. Today, more and more young people are finding themselves facing sexual assault charges, whether or not either partner feels victimized. States have responded to these cases in a variety of ways.

 

Adolescents with High-Risk Sexual Attitudes Attract Peers with Similar Attitude ~ High-risk sexual behavior in adolescents appears to be influenced by the sexual attitudes of peers, and young people select friends whose attitudes about sex are consistent with their own attitudes.

 

Adolescent Sexual Behavior ~ A guide to current trends in adolescent sexual behavior.

 

Animal Sex Abuse Fact Sheet (pdf) ~ Animal sexual abuse, like rape, is the eroticization of violence, control and exploitation.

 

Bestiality aka Zoophilia ~ bestiality is sexual assault of an animal and is always a crime.
 

Boys who see porn more likely to harass girls ~ Porn shapes sexual knowledge, sexual preferences, and sexual behavior.

 

Do Parents' Rights End at the Schoolhouse Gate? ~ Do parents have a right to control the upbringing of their children, especially when it comes to what their children should be exposed to in terms of sexual practices and intimate relationships?

 

From Father to Son - J.R.R. Tolkien on Sex ~ Tolkien dearly loved his children, and he left a literary legacy in the form of letters.  Many of these letters were written to his sons, and these letters represent, not only a hallmark of literary quality, but a treasure of Christian teaching on matters of manhood, marriage, and sex.

 

How teenage access to pornography is killing intimacy in sex ~ Teenagers have such easy access to hardcore porn that a skewed view of sex is becoming the norm in society and the idea of intimacy is dying.

 

The Lost Children of Rockdale County ~ A syphilis outbreak in an affluent community uncovers the hidden lives of troubled teens.

 

My Child is Gay!  Now What Do I Do? ~ Bewildered?  Confused?  Angry?  Feeling guilty? Worried?  You're not alone.  As the gay community comes out of the closet, parents by the hundreds of thousands are discovering that they are the parents of gay youth.  This can be a crisis or an opportunity, it's all up to you.

 

Paraphilias ~ Paraphilias are sometimes referred to as sexual deviations or perversions and include fantasies, behaviors, or sexual urges focusing on unusual objects, activities, or situations.

 

Sexually active girls' lament:  Why didn't I wait? ~ Many researchers who study adolescent depression speculate that something about dating is toxic to girls' health.  When teen girls have sex, it's because there's a relationship, or so they think.  And teen boys with surging hormones will say nothing to dissuade them.  Consequently, girls become more emotionally invested than their partners.  When the relationship ends, girls generally have a harder time healing.  Sex just deepens the wound.

 

Should Sexually Active Minors Have a Right to Privacy? ~ If one views sexual activity among minors as relatively harmless or trivial, then the issue is easy -- do not report teenage sex.  But if one honestly views teenage sex as harmful for the teen involved (e.g., sexual abuse), then the issue becomes much more difficult.

 

Teenage 'daisy chain' sex alert ~ Daisy-chaining is groups of older teens going to one another's homes and having sex with a group of partners.

 

Towards Reclaiming the Symbol of the Family of God:  Identity and Sexuality ~ This article examines the question, "Can I belong in a community and have my identity and sexuality supported and upheld?"

 

Why Boys are Turning into Girls ~ A picture is emerging of ubiquitous chemical contamination driving down sperm counts and feminizing male children all over the developed world.  And anti-pollution measures and regulations are falling far short of getting to grips with it.

 

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